I know you know people like this. Those that are always angry. Whatever happens, whatever people say, they are angry.
I don’t know anybody who gets up in the morning and decides that he or she wants to be angry immediately. But often, it just takes a little bit of disturbance and those people get angry.
It shows on their face, in the body posture and the reaction to others. More so, it is hard to say anything to them, because they have this aura of ….. “don’t touch me, don’t say anything” around them. Why talk to them in the first place, right? I mean, gosh, no one wants to be exposed to anger.
Sometimes it seems that those who are angry always assume that whatever comes up to them is meant to hurt them. Whatever others say is directed at them.
It is easy to let go of anger, with something that we in complimentary therapy call Time Line Therapy (TM). But this is another, long to explain topic.
Anger and hositlity correlates strongly with heart diseases, poorer health conditions and earlier death. It is, of course, not good to repress your anger, since this is more like nuking your inner body and totally pollutes your mind. In fact, if you become aware of your anger, you will probably realise that you get angry more and more often, without actually being provoked.
Anger is created far inside of our brain, something that is already 500 million years old inherited from fish on our climb up the evolutionary ladder – the limbic brain and one of its parts, called the amydala.
It is suppose to preserve us and make us ready, when we need an energy boost, when a human is threatened – fight or flight. Inside something little, almond-shaped, called amygdala.
Now, once aroused, the amygdala sends off a lot of chemical material into the blood stream, muscle tensing etc, to get us ready to fight or run.
These signals are set off, before we can actually think. Thinking is derived in a different structure in the brain, the prefrontal cortex and kicks in later. That is then, when you get back to your senses, and realise that your anger was useless.
Have you ever done something very “stupid” only to regret it later? That means that your rational behaviour started later, and the emotional brain hijacked you. In the worse case (and we have seen those in Malaysia in many recent cases), your logical thinking is totally blended out, rage takes over and you go for whatever you think you need to go for.
The sad part is anger is addictive. The good part is that you can learn to let go or control it. Awareness creates choice. If you don’t want to undergo coaching to let go of your anger, watch yourself and see, when you get angry. Right down the situation in which you are in. What is happening around you?
After a while, you might realise certain patterns that cause you to get angry, certain circumstances, comments, or even people. And then you can start working at it to change. Because, awareness creates change!!
Andreas is the founder of Asia Mind Dynamics and a certified trainer of internationally recognised certification programmes:
- Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) with the American Board of Neuro Linguistic Programming (ABNLP),
- NLP Coach Training with the Coaching Division of ABNLP,
- The Words That Change Minds -Language and Behaviour Profile of which he also is one of 17 Global Master Trainers
- Creating Your Future Coaching™ Techniques at the Masters Level with the International Timeline Therapy Association
- Hypnosis with the American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH)
- Master Trainer with the International Association of Counsellors and Therapists (IACT).
We also train companies to achieve higher performance especially through our signature programmes on Leadership, Sales and Advanced Communications.
To find out more about us or our programme and what makes us so very different as trainer and coaches, send an email to andreas.dorn AT gmail.com or contact us at +6012 287 5048.