Recently, in a training, we, my wife and me, had a discussion with some of the participants. The participants were amazed how my wife and I cooperate in the training. We are a good team, for sure. I am kind of general at times and she brings the material taught down to the ground. Sometimes, it is just the other way round.
We then entered a discussion about the advantages of NLP and Hypnosis in the education of children. And that it must be wonderful to know how to manage our states. That we would always know what is going on inside of our heads. We would be able to reflect on our behaviours.
Ah, it was nice to listen to them.
But we had to dampen their enthusiasm. You know just because we are pretty good in NLP, hypnosis and other mind management techniques does not mean we are perfect. We are not. Not by far.
And we don’t want to be perfect, because that would mean that we close our minds to feedback and new learning.
In fact knowing all the stuff about the mind, beliefs, values, and how to overcome negative behaviours does not make your life any easier. May be on the contrary. Because we know what we do wrong when we do something wrong, it makes us kind of feel bad.
Let’s say, I am telling my child that he needs to sit still in school. But then, kids and adults learn best when we walk around. have you ever wondered why you walk around when you use the phone? Because it simply is easier to gesticulate and articulate when you move your body. Your mind is more active since it is more engaged. You are more energetic.
I understand that it is pretty impossible for teachers to teach when children run around. I know however that the teachers often teach wrongly in many other ways. They simply don’t know better.
So I have to tell my child to sit still, even so i know it is not the best way for him. Makes me feel bad. Other parents have it easier because they do not know this. But what can I do? All I can do is to explain this to my child. And hope that he understands (he does).
Or talk about emotional mastery. I learned how to master my state of mind. Does this mean that I never feel angry, sad, emotionally upset?
No, of course not. In the same way as I do feel happy, loved, passionate or energetic.
The difference is may be that I do know how to change my state of mind. That I react differently to situations and events around. That my bad states don’t last long, but that I can switch them off, when I want.
NLPlers are no robots. But we have the awareness of what is going on inside of our head, how we react to others or how others react to us. It is easier to control situations and control us.
The fun part of NLP is that we are able to “read” other people. That we have the inclination of why people do what they do. Or what is going on inside of them. That we have the emotional self-awareness of situations and reactions. And, most of all, that we can work with other people to help them get over their limitations. And move to another spot in life. Now, that is fun!
Andreas is the founder of Asia Mind Dynamics and a certified trainer of internationally recognised certification programmes:
- Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) with the American Board of Neuro Linguistic Programming (ABNLP),
- NLP Coach Training with the Coaching Division of ABNLP,
- The Words That Change Minds -Language and Behaviour Profile of which he also is one of 17 Global Master Trainers
- Creating Your Future Coaching™ Techniques at the Masters Level with the International Timeline Therapy Association
- Hypnosis with the American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH)
- Master Trainer with the International Association of Counsellors and Therapists (IACT).
We also train companies to achieve higher performance especially through our signature programmes on Leadership, Sales and Advanced Communications.
To find out more about us or our programme and what makes us so very different as trainer and coaches, send an email to andreas.dorn AT gmail.com or contact us at +6012 287 5048.