Change – small, big and customised

If you are into NLP and you follow my writing, you know that I believe that instant change is possible. In fact, NLP has been called “the Art and Science of Instant Change.”

And Richard Bandler, one of the co-founders of NLP was once quoted as saying” “Trying to change something slowly is like having a conversation at the rate of one word per day.”

Agree!!

But yesterday, I had an experience that shifted my thinking. Quite dramatically. In a way that I think about approaching change andmay be even NLP differently.

Let me start from the beginning.

Yesterday, I passed by the pantry in our office block and saw the garbage bin.

It sometimes is put upside down – the garbage bin, of course – , meaning, the bottom is at the top. I don’t know why the cleaners do it that way but so what!

But then, I couldn’t believe my eyes that someone actually put his food rests, the waste, on a tissue and on top of the bottom of the garbage bin. Do you get what I am saying? if not, check the picture below.

And it wasn’t an accident as it happened again today.

I mean, look, this is not nice for neither other tenants nor the cleaners. May be the cockroaches or the ants enjoy it at night.

Garbage on the bin

Also, there is at least one guy in the office floor, who hasn’t learned how to throw away

DSC01297 paper into the trashbin on the male restroom after washing his hands (I hope he does!!). Instead, he puts the paper towels on top or the trashbin.

This relates to change and how change has to be thought of!

You see, I still believe that change can happen in an instant, even so many people don’t agree with me that this is actually possible. This kind of thinking is normal because we have learned throughout our life that change isn’t easy, and that change takes time to settle inside of us, if at all. It is the cultural imprint to think like this.

Even some of my participants in the NLP Practitioner training initially reject the idea (in the beginning of the training until the learn that it is possible!).

But of course, the speed of change also depends on how long we have been mired in all the behaviours that we don’t like.

Anyway, sometimes we need to go back to basics.

You see, many of us believe that we need to create BIG Goals, or stretch goals to further our personal development.  I believe that this is alright as long as the individuals involved are ready for it, and already have a mindset for change. They can be stretched even further and most likely will enjoy it.

But what do we do with people where even the basic sense, an attitude for “normal” behaviour (whatever that is) is missing? The photos above are just examples?

It is here, where stretch goals would fail. Some people cannot work with big goals. They need small goals to even build the basis or form a foundation of functioning “normally” (however that is defined!).

Behavioural change wouldn’t work as well, as this is a mindset and attitude problem first. Everything we do starts with a thought in our mind first and here, small initial changes are needed).

This really reinforces my thoughts that change needs to be individualised or customised. Change management programmes involving many individuals are bound to fail because they ignore the individual. Here again, the ones with a mindset for change will enjoy it but those that cannot even handle the garbage correctly will sabotage the initiate. It happens often enough!

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Andreas is the founder of Asia Mind Dynamics and a certified trainer of internationally recognised certification programmes:

  • Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) with the American Board of Neuro Linguistic Programming (ABNLP),
  • NLP Coach Training with the Coaching Division of ABNLP,
  • The Words That Change Minds -Language and Behaviour Profile of which he also is one of 17 Global Master
  • Creating Your Future Coaching™ Techniques at the Masters Level with the International Timeline Therapy Association
  • Hypnosis with the American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH)
  • Master Trainer of Hypnotheray with the International Association of Counsellors and Therapists (IACT).

We also train companies to achieve higher performance especially through our signature programmes on Leadership, Sales and Advanced Communications.

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