In Part 1 on Goals and the Unconscious Mind, I wrote that the Unconscious Mind is the goal getter and that the Conscious Mind is the goal getter. I also mentioned that if both of them are in conflict with regard to your goal, the Unconscious Mind tends to win or will only give in when you use your Conscious Mind and sheer willpower.
This write-up now is about how you can formulate a goal in a way that the Unconscious Mind can understand it.
It is an easy process, but many times, one can get it wrong.
- Make sure you formulate the goal in positive terms and future oriented of what you really want. Don’t say things like “I don’t want to live so unhealthy anymore” or “I don’t want to lose money anymore.” Instead, write that you want to achieve. I give you examples below. Answer the question: “What do I really want?” Also, be aware that the languaging of this part is currently not appropriate, but more about this in a while;
- Be specific in your goal formulation and use simple language. Your Unconscious Mind understands it better if you are specific in your goal description. Sometimes people say that the Unconscious Mind is like a very powerful 5 year old child. I don’t know how true it is, but see it as a metaphor. You wouldn’t speak in complicated terms to a 5 year old child, right?
- Be careful in the usage of words for your goal formulation. Don’t use words and phrases such as “I want to be……” or “I will be”. “To want” just indicates the intend but not the action of achieving your goals. “I will” is pretty much the same only that you formulate it in a future-orientation. Write your goal in a present tense and as if you have achieved it already.
- Emotionalise your goal. Now, writing a goal is notmore than just writing a sentence. It doesn’t move you far, as it sounds very consciously formulated. But the Unconscious Mind is the seat of your emotions. And emotions are the fire that drive you toward your goal. As such, we need to emotionalise your goal. Ask yourself, what does having this goal give you? What’s the purpose for you to achieve this goal? How does it make you feel? And why is THAT (whatever you said before) important to you? Somewhere along the line, you will get to a very deep-rooted and emotionalised word. When you link this to your goal, then you should get motivated by just thinking about it. But we are not yet done!
- Go beyond your goal. Once you have come so far, ask yourself: “What does this goal give you? What comes next?”. You see, many people reach their goal, and then enjoy the achievement for may be an hour, a couple of days or a week. Then it is gone, and they wonder – “hey, I worked so hard for this, why am I feeling like this is normal already?” Well, one of the reasons, amongst others, is that you haven’t thought about what comes next. What will happen after you achieve your goal? What does the goal allow you to do? Go beyond the achievement and look into the future.
An example for writing a goal would be to write like this:
- “It is June 6, 2012, and I now weigh 65 kilos” or “It is December 31 2012, and I now regularly speak in front of 10,000 people and get paid at least …. $ for it.” This is present tense, and specific.
- “Just thinking about …. (your goal), I am happy, and totally motivated.” (emotionalise the goal)
- And having (your goal), I can spend more time with my children, and my family (or anything that the goal give you
If you have come so far, you have made great progress.
But we are not yet finished. In Part 3, I show you how you can implant or install your goal into your Unconscious Mind to totally make it happen.
In case you want to learn how to set goals, or you are interested in learning Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP from Asia Mind Dynamics, just send an email to andreas.dorn AT gmail.com. You can also check out our website at Asia Mind Dynamics.
I look forward to hearing from you soon.