It is such a very sad story, of great misunderstanding, wrong doings that are still ongoing. In case you misunderstand me, I don’t believe in violence, killings and pain or hurt. I think what happened described in the following is so, so sad, and incredibly painful for all involved.
I am talking about the teenager who killed his tuition teacher’s 13-year old daughter when he was 13 himself. Apparently, she daunted him “Fatty, fatty, fatty” until something gave way inside of him
I believe that anger and rage took over and that he didn’t know what happened. This is pour violence and needs punishment, nevertheless, there is something that I want to point out here.
Aside of the rage that can really destroy people’s life, there is more to it. It is clear today that the brain keeps growing and developing until we are in our mid-20s. Yep – you read correctly.
“The teen brain is not a finished product, but is a work in progress. Until recently most scientists believed that the major “wiring” of the brain was completed by as early as three years of age and that the brain was fully mature by the age of 10 or 12. New findings show that the greatest changes to the parts of the brain that are responsible for functions such as self-control, judgment, emotions, and organization occur between puberty and adulthood. This may help to explain certain teenage behavior that adults can find mystifying, such as poor decision-making, recklessness, and emotional outbursts.” “The brain is still developing during the teen years and its maturation does not stop at age 10, but continues into the teen years and even into the 20’s.”
“Compared to adults the teens’ frontal lobes (the seat of goal-oriented rational thinking) are less active and their amygdala (a structure in the temporal lobe that is involved in discriminating fear and other emotions) is more active.”
Read the full article here.
This finding does not excuse any misdeed, rage, destruction or other antisocial behaviour, however defined. But it is something to consider when we judge youth for their behaviour. It can explain why we have drink and drive cases, why kids start to smoke, why there is early curiosity and the search for sex, and sometimes even violence that can be triggered despite all that is being done in terms of education and instilling of strong values and positive beliefs.
The sentencing of this boy to life in prison will not help the parents and take their pain away, or bring their daughter back. Will it make the boy a better person, when he is in prison? I don’t think so, because honestly, when I am in prison for the rest of my life, I have nothing to lose anyway, so I would try to get out anyhow possible.
Andreas is the founder of Asia Mind Dynamics and a certified trainer of internationally recognised certification programmes:
- Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) with the American Board of Neuro Linguistic Programming (ABNLP),
- NLP Coach Training with the Coaching Division of ABNLP,
- The Words That Change Minds -Language and Behaviour Profile of which he also is one of 17 Global Master Trainers
- Creating Your Future Coaching™ Techniques at the Masters Level with the International Timeline Therapy Association
- Hypnosis with the American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH)
- Master Trainer with the International Association of Counsellors and Therapists (IACT).
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