Humans are specialists in holding out to the limit. Most of us can get pushed, and pushed and pushed, without ever saying no to something.
Just think about it for a moment.
I believe you know people who work and complain about their work. About not being happy. About their boss, their colleagues, their daily worktasks, the jam to work, the lack of promotion and so on.
I also believe you know people who hang on to their marriages, and are unhappy. You can see it in their faces, or feel it in the silence that engulfes their houses.
I believe you know those others who never move.
Resigned to what life is presenting to them.
But, I also believe you know people who said stop. Said stop for whatever reason. Either because they had enough and while not knowing what they wanted, knew that they did not like the misery anymore. Or those, that shout stop, and then start developing their destiny. These latter ones are in the minority. Most of those we know first want to leave a dreadful situation but are not really aware of what they want.
If they are lucky, they have friends, relatives, colleagues or bosses who help those that want change to make the change possible.
Often enough so, it becomes worse once they get moving and start changing. Because then they have to leave their comfort zone. Sure, it was a bad place to be in but it was familiar. Not only to the individual but also to those around the individual.
Others might come and ask “why do you want to change? Aren’t you happy?” And then give a whole bunch of reasons.
Like – “look, you have such a great job, such a great husband/ wife – such great children – are you really willing to give that up?” Doesn’t help much, does it not?
Change takes strength but once someone realises that enough is enough, it only can get better. Even so it might feel worse initially. Sounds like a contradiction but it is true. It is the fear of change that holds us back. Others hold us back because they might learn that change is possible. Or, that their own situation is quite pathetic.
But once someone realises that enough is enough, they start moving out of their comfort zone. And even when they go back to their old life, they will have realised that there was something out there. Something that might entice them to start searching and beginning to change again.
Because the neurology got ready. They have tasted freedom.
So ask yourself – where are you uncomfortable, right now? Where is your soul shouting – “enough is enough!”.
If you need to talk, give me a call. Because sometimes, it is a coach that you need, that gives you the direction to overcome your challenges, discover your limits, design your life and create a future. Or simply is there to talk and explore. Call now – 012-287 5048 (Andreas)
Andreas is the founder of Asia Mind Dynamics and a certified trainer of internationally recognised certification programmes:
- Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) with the American Board of Neuro Linguistic Programming (ABNLP),
- NLP Coach Training with the Coaching Division of ABNLP,
- The Words That Change Minds -Language and Behaviour Profile of which he also is one of 17 Global Master Trainers
- Creating Your Future Coaching™ Techniques at the Masters Level with the International Timeline Therapy Association
- Hypnosis with the American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH)
- Master Trainer with the International Association of Counsellors and Therapists (IACT).
We also train companies to achieve higher performance especially through our signature programmes on Leadership, Sales and Advanced Communications.
To find out more about us or our programme and what makes us so very different as trainer and coaches, send an email to andreas.dorn AT gmail.com or contact us at +6012 287 5048.